New to kink parties or BDSM events? We've got you covered. Here's everything first-timers need to know before attending their first lifestyle event in Long Island or NYC.
From RSVP to arrival, here's how it works.
Once you've been approved, you'll receive event details including the date, time, and location. Payment is handled via CashApp, Venmo, or Zelle depending on the event.
We'll send you a confirmation with everything you need to know.
This is the fun part. Pick out your outfit, gather any toys or accessories you want to bring, and get ready for an unforgettable night.
We'll send you a pre-event reminder with any last-minute details.
When you arrive, you'll check in at the door with your ID (21+ only). Our security team will welcome you and give you a brief orientation if it's your first time.
From there, you're free to explore, socialize, and enjoy the evening at your own pace.
Dress to impress. This is your chance to express yourself.
Leather, latex, PVC, harnesses, corsets, heels. Go all out if that's your vibe.
Always a great option. Feel sexy, feel confident.
Nice jeans, a button-down, a little black dress. Keep it clean and put-together.
You'll be on your feet a lot. Stilettos are great, but make sure you can walk in them.
No jeans and t-shirts. This isn't a casual hangout. Put some effort in and you'll fit right in.
Non-negotiable. Break them and you're out.
No harassment, no racism, no predatory behavior.
Not interested? Move on. Don't push, don't beg.
Condoms are encouraged. Share STD test results if asked. No shame in playing safe.
ID checked at the door. No exceptions.
What happens at our events stays at our events.
That's what we're all here for. Enjoy yourself.
Answers to the most common questions we get.
Kink parties are social gatherings where like-minded adults explore their desires in a safe, consensual environment. Activities vary but may include BDSM play, socializing, music, and more. Every event is different, but safety and consent are always the priority.
No experience is required. We welcome beginners and experienced kinksters alike. Our community is inclusive and supportive, and we're happy to help newcomers feel comfortable.
Yes. Every event has professional security, and all guests are vetted beforehand. Consent is mandatory, and our rules are strictly enforced. Your safety is our top priority.
Priority access is given to those with active FetLife accounts, but it's not required. You can reach out via Telegram or other channels to apply.
Yourself, a good attitude, and whatever makes you feel confident. Some guests bring toys, outfits, or accessories, but nothing is required. We provide snacks, drinks, and 420 products.
Absolutely. Many guests come solo. It's a great way to meet new people and explore your interests in a safe environment.
We're here to answer any other questions you might have.