New to kink parties or BDSM events? We've got you covered. Here's everything first-timers need to know before attending their first lifestyle event in Long Island or NYC.
From RSVP to arrival, here's how it works.
Once you've been approved, you'll receive event details including the date, time, and location. Payment is handled via CashApp, Venmo, or Zelle depending on the event.
We'll send you a confirmation with everything you need to know.
This is the fun part. Pick out your outfit, gather any toys or accessories you want to bring, and get ready for an unforgettable night.
We'll send you a pre-event reminder with any last-minute details.
When you arrive, you'll check in at the door with your ID (21+ only). Our security team will welcome you and give you a brief orientation if it's your first time.
From there, you're free to explore, socialize, and enjoy the evening at your own pace.
Dress to impress. This is your chance to express yourself.
Leather, latex, PVC, harnesses, corsets, heels. Go all out if that's your vibe.
Always a great option. Feel sexy, feel confident.
Nice jeans, a button-down, a little black dress. Keep it clean and put-together.
You'll be on your feet a lot. Stilettos are great, but make sure you can walk in them.
No jeans and t-shirts. This isn't a casual hangout. Put some effort in and you'll fit right in.
A large private estate built for the night.
A large private estate, built for group sizes up to 60 people. Room to move without ever feeling crowded.
Two bathrooms, so nobody is waiting in line all night.
Two massive sofas in the main room. Sit down, sprawl out, or stay a while.
Step out to the patio whenever you need air or a quiet minute.
Hot tub access in the spring and summer.
Two large beds, watched over by security the whole night for your safety.
What you'll find once you're through the door.
Music chosen specifically for the night. Not a background playlist running on repeat.
Special guest kink and BDSM performances at select events.
Snacks, juice, water and sodas available all night. BYOB is allowed. Limited alcohol available on site.
The place is 420 friendly.
Vetted before the door opens.
Every guest is vetted ahead of time with a real FetLife or SDC profile, or vetted personally by Mr. Nyte.
We work to keep a good gender ratio.
New to this? Medusa and Labyrinth can be a lot for a first night. We are here to help you break the ice, with people who are just as new and people experienced in the lifestyle. It runs like a house party, and everything feels natural as the night goes on.
Anyone who pays gets added to the private Telegram group by Mr. Nyte.
Non-negotiable. Break them and you're out.
No harassment, no racism, no predatory behavior.
Not interested? Move on. Don't push, don't beg.
Condoms are encouraged. Share STD test results if asked. No shame in playing safe.
ID checked at the door. No exceptions.
What happens at our events stays at our events.
That's what we're all here for. Enjoy yourself.
Answers to the most common questions we get.
Kink parties are social gatherings where like-minded adults explore their desires in a safe, consensual environment. Activities vary but may include BDSM play, socializing, music, and more. Every event is different, but safety and consent are always the priority.
No experience is required. We welcome beginners and experienced kinksters alike. Our community is inclusive and supportive, and we're happy to help newcomers feel comfortable.
Yes. Every event has professional security, and all guests are vetted beforehand. Consent is mandatory, and our rules are strictly enforced. Your safety is our top priority.
Priority access is given to those with active FetLife accounts, but it's not required. You can reach out via Telegram or other channels to apply.
Yourself, a good attitude, and whatever makes you feel confident. Some guests bring toys, outfits, or accessories, but nothing is required. We provide snacks, drinks, and 420 products.
Absolutely. Many guests come solo. It's a great way to meet new people and explore your interests in a safe environment.
We're here to answer any other questions you might have.